I am taking a class in which each month focuses on an important attribute of a life-giving church. This month the topic is honor, and the lesson is for us to treat everyone with honor. We have heard many definitions of honor, so let me tell you what I have taken away as my working definition: to see and acknowledge the intrinsic worth and even glory in another human being. Previous “honor movements” have tended to get the “low” to honor the “high”. In this movement, everyone honors everyone, and honor begins when the ones at the top start demonstrating how to.
One of the most difficult things for followers of Jesus to do well is to know how to handle people who have failed morally, especially those who are not necessarily repentant. How can we treat such people with honor? Furthermore, I have friends who have gifts of being able to see things of the Spirit, and some of these friends can see clearly the secret sins of some people’s lives. How are those folks supposed to handle what they see? I am thankful that we have an excellent example of these issues in the Bible, in which Jesus models for us what to do.
This story is familiar to many of us, but most of us have not considered it from the perspective of honoring the dishonorable. The story is in John 4, and it is the story of Jesus talking to a Samaritan woman in the heat of the day at a well. Jesus could see prophetically the failings of this woman: she had five husbands already (by implication, she had been divorced five times), and she was living with a man that she wasn’t even married to.
Furthermore, because she was drawing water in the heat of the day, some commentators suggest that she was shunned by the women of her village. You can probably picture how some followers of Jesus would interact with this woman if they knew: most would probably avoid her entirely, and others who are more likely to confront would simply tell her to repent or she would go to hell.
But Jesus takes a completely different approach: he asks her for a drink of water. This shocks her! Not because she thinks he knows about her past (and present) — Jesus hasn’t revealed that yet — but because Jews generally felt morally superior to Samaritans, and men morally superior to women. So how was it he would give her the time of day? To show honor, we have to be humble, and Jesus showed us that even the greatest can choose to humble themselves.
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