Understanding the Acts of Service Person (One of the Five Love Languages) — A Quote by Danny Silk in “Keep Your Love On”

“Each and every time Acts of Service people enter their home or work environment, the meter begins to run. This meter is connected to a video camera in their heads that scans their surroundings and fills or depletes the meter based on what they see has been done, or not done, for them. For example, when they come in the house and see shoes, backpacks, dishes, jackets, and other random items strewn all over the floor, see that the dog needs to be fed, see that the TV is on and no one is watching it, or see anything that needs to be ‘fixed’ or ‘done,’ their anxiety begins to climb. This anxiety is even more heightened if they know that they are the only person living in their house who needs that level of order and structure… The way to fill an Acts of Service person’s love tank is to find out what they need and do it as a free act of love, not coercion. On their end, Acts of Service people need to learn how to communicate their need and not simply broadcast their anxiety. They need to say, ‘I feel loved when you take care of things that are important to me. When you don’t, you send the message that I am not important to you.'”

— Danny Silk, “Keep Your Love On”, Kindle locations 432-433,446

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